Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: Give 'Em All You Got? Perspective – What You Have to Give Practical Tactics – What You Love to Give If Your Partner Is a Pig, Don't Gift Your Pearls. Perspective – What You Have to Give Both uncoupled and coupled people alike often think about what they want to get out of relationship. Even people who could be operating out of "codependent" tendencies by giving or caring for another, are actually giving to get something out...
11 days ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: The Defect Effect Perspective – The Fault Flip Side Practical Tactics – Embrace Your Inner Chevy Chase Wouldn't You Like to Get to Know Me? Perspective – The Fault Flip Side The creators of the dating app OKCupid collected data from the users of their website that backed this up. The more unique, even oddball content that people included in their photos and written section of their profiles, the more communications they'd...
18 days ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: The Self-Doubt - Confidence Spectrum Perspective – Faulty Extremes Practical Tactics – Knowing Your Range Dramatic Reenactment of an Incompatible Date Perspective – Faulty Extremes I have noticed that mainstream dating and relating advice goes for the lowest common denominator by assuming the reader/viewer is completely ignorant of any wisdom or experience. Therefore, the tips peddle self-doubt hardcore. It's insulting (to...
25 days ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: Your Limitations Open Opportunities Perspective – Specific Is Your Ticket Practical Tactics – How You "Live Life to the Fullest" Live Life to the Fullest. Take the Specific, Narrow Road. Perspective – Specific Is Your Ticket Many daters present their interests, likes and dislikes in generalities because they believe it widens their search net. Many people subdue these when they're in partnership, too, believing that it...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: Passion vs Practicality Perspective – Passions Alone and Together Practical Tactics – Let Passion Transform The Practical Living Life to the Fullest? What Does That Even Mean? Perspective – Passions Alone and Together When I worked at eHarmony, the most common answer in online dating profiles to the question, "What are you most passion about?" was "Living life to the fullest." It was a cliche that become a joke because people...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: Getting Old Together Never Gets Old Perspective – Passion That Weathers Change Practical Tactics – Pinpoint Persevering Passion He thinks jellyfish are magical. She thinks they're delicious. Perspective – Passion That Weathers Change The original eHarmony's matching system was based on Dr. Neil Clark Warren's research results on happy long-term marriages. His findings also concluded that unhappily married couples were more...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: Passion Mash-up Perspective – Compatibility Confusion Practical Tactics – Sorting Out Compatibility Factors Perspective – Compatibility Confusion In the early days of eHarmony when I started working there, the eHarmony original matching system was based on the "29 Dimensions of Compatibility" that described core traits of individuals. If two eHarmony members shared enough of them, the system's algorithm would introduce those...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: Different Types of Passions Perspective – What Different Passions Produce Practical Tactics – What Different Passions Produce Perspective – What Different Passions Produce For a long time, the first section of eHarmony's online dating profile asked the online dater to describe what they were most passionate about. This proved an effective means of creating curiosity to draw to people together (or apart, if their interests...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Welcome to Your Love Breakthrough! Get Real. Love. In this edition: What Is Too Much of a Liar? Perspective – The Liar in the Mirror? Practical Tactics – Lying Scale Measurements Perspective – The Liar in the Mirror? Lying? Who, Me? As I mentioned in the email "Honesty Overload", so many people put on their eHarmony dating profile that the most important quality in a partner is honesty. It was so prevalent that it became a joke among the eHarmony staff and members alike. Ironically, however,...
2 months ago • 2 min read